If mindfulness can bring such wholeness into our general life when applied imagine what can happen when we apply it specifically in our sex life!
Mindful sex involves paying attention to what’s happening inside our bodies and mind as we are sexually connected to our partner. It is paying close attention to our breaths, the rhythm of our bodies as they perform a dance unique to each couple, the observing of the warmth without bringing any judgment of “good or “bad”.Instead just simply reveling in the sweet bliss of intimacy and connection.If you are interested in learning how to be mindful during sex here are some quickies:
Your sacred space and time should be free from distractions. You owe it to you and your partner to be the primary focus of attention. Place all electronics in a designated area( eg. a basket) and put all electronics on silent.
𝐒𝐞𝐭 𝐚𝐧 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧
Think about what you would like to achieve through sex. Maybe to feel loved, desired, or connected. Sometimes one partner places too much energy on getting to their or their partner’s orgasm. Too much concentration on orgasm as the determining success factor can put a lot of pressure on the couple. This can leave their heart and mind out of the experience and totally missing the purpose of the intimate time. Instead, enjoy the entire process from the first touch to the very last kiss. Whenever you feel your mind is wandering off again ( if you are performing well, or doing a good job) ….try to focus on your partner. Bring your mind back to the present moment and all that juiciness right next to you.
Paying attention to your body’s sensations, you might notice a tingling sensation, going through your body. When you feel an enjoyable spot as you hold and release, acknowledge that feeling in that particular area. Gently guide your partner to the area and explore using through sensate focus and have some much needed fun!
Photography by Danis Graveris & Vidar Mordii Mathisen